This has probably happened to everyone at least once, but more than likely several times throughout your life. It can be caused by a simple misunderstanding of body language, a hug, words spoken, or even a kiss. Many times we want to interpret actions of another by what we want them to mean instead of what their actual intention is…. If you are lonely and seeking a relationship, the actions of another can be easily misunderstood to mean that there is more than just a casual friendship desired.
As teenagers and young adults, it is easy to have a crush on someone in hopes they feel the same way. It isn’t until we grow in our experience that we gain wisdom to understand some of these feelings. Unfortunately, some people never move past the teenage crush stage. If you have an interest in someone, make it known to them. If there is a mutual interest it can be discovered quickly. If there is not a mutual interest, it is good to know that as well.
To prevent any misunderstandings of intent, it is always best to be direct and ask for clarification. Don’t assume you know what someone else desires in a relationship. They could be looking for casual friendships, just having polite conversations, or they may, in fact, be looking for a serious relationship.
Finally, there are people that are only out for personal pleasure with no regard for the other person or their desires. They are the users, the players of life. While this stereotype is most commonly attributed to men, they can be women also. Even when you ask what someone’s intentions are, you still have to observe their actions to make sure they align with their words. It is better to ask (even if it is uncomfortable to do so) than it is to assume and be mistaken.