Are you in a one-sided relationship? Are you in a relationship where your mate is not emotionally (or legally) available? Are there emotional or codependency issues that you need to free yourself from? There are any number of reasons that can create the need to end a relationship. Understanding the need to and doing it are two completely different issues.
An important point to remember is that ending a relationship does not necessarily make one person right and the other one wrong. It doesn’t make one person good and the other one bad. It just means that the two of you are not completely compatible. If even just one of the Four Cornerstones of a relationship (Intellectual, Spiritual, Emotional or Physical) is missing, you don’t have an extraordinary relationship. And odds are, it never will be.
We usually understand the need to leave a relationship and that is the easy part. Actually ending it can be the excruciatingly painful part. Regardless of the reason you choose to leave a relationship, prolonging the break-up is rarely a good idea. Rarely is there a good time. Rarely is it easy or pain-free. Just be an adult and mature about ending the relationship. You don’t need harsh words, even if you are thinking them. There is generally no reason to prolong the conversation. Just speak your mind and move on.
After a break-up, you often may feel remorse. This is the main reason that you have a desire to reconnect in spite of the fact that breaking up was the right thing to do. If you decide to climb on this emotional roller coaster ride, you are going to get hurt again…and again…and again until you decide to completely break free. Resist your urge to call and reconnect. It only leads to more pain and then having to restart the healing process all over again. Break up once and heal once.
Finally, ending an emotionally or physically abusive relationship should always be a priority and done sooner rather than later. Ending this type of relationship may also take some planning and the help of family, friends or other resources. If necessary, contact a local shelter and law enforcement for your protection. Your health and safety and the health and safety of your children should always be a priority.