Are you flirtatious like we discussed yesterday? Are you cool and reserved? Are you distant and closed off from communication? Are you open and receptive? We have the ability to be all these and more at any given time and in any given circumstance. However, we do tend to gravitate to being more open or closed depending on our personality and on the relationship.
Much of the time we will naturally reflect the signals our mate is send to us. If they are closed and withdrawn, we can become that way. If they are open and receptive we can reflect that too. In a great or extraordinary relationship, we can naturally reflect our mate’s mood or at times we can move in the opposite direction especially when we are being supportive of our mate during a rough time in their life.
Some of us do this more naturally than others. If you are not blessed with the ability to “read” your mate’s mood instinctively, it will take some observation, discussion and learning about how to best be supportive and communicative.
The opposite is also true. If we are not tuned into the signals we are sending to our mate, we won’t realize what message they are receiving. Often it is good to ask how someone else perceives you to gain an understanding of the message you are sending.
What do you have to be aware of? You have to understand the words you use. As we say in our book, “words have meaning.” Understanding how words are used, tone of voice and body language all contribute to portraying a message. We devote two chapters to the subject of communication and that can be a great place to start to help you understand both the message that you send and the message you think you are receiving. If that isn’t enough,there have been many books written specifically on the various components of communication.
Learn to be the best communicator that you can be. This will have a huge impact not only on your romantic relationships but also with personal, work and business relationships.