What are you thinking…or are you?
What are you thinking…or are you? #Love #Relationships #Dating
It’s Christmas Eve Eve as I write this. It is normally a time when I would be a little more sentimental about coming to the end of another year, about my blessings and about the great people that have come into my life this year. However, I have noticed a decided increase in the number of stories I am hearing about bad dates, bad relationships and how terrible dating can be in the Kansas City area. Maybe it’s just because the holidays are upon us and we all desire to be happy and spending time with someone special at this time of year.
Most of us have heard horror stories of bad dates, poor on-line dating experiences and generally a lack of quality people to meet (where ever you live). You may have even had a few bad experiences yourself!
If you have had mostly poor dating experiences, maybe the problem does not lie within the general process of on-line dating, the people on the on-dating sites or the availability of quality people to date. If it’s not that, what could it be? (Please read that last sentence with a hint of sarcasm!) Maybe it’s time to take a look inside. After all, you are the common denominator in all of your dates and relationships!
As I have mentioned in another blog a few weeks back, most people are not crystal clear about what they want in a relationship. They have only vague ideas of what is important to them and sort of stumble into and out of relationships and not taking the whole dating process seriously. Yet, they will be the first to complain that they can’t find a great man/woman to date!
People, it’s time to get serious about your dating life! It’s time to become crystal clear about what you want in your relationship. Rather than work on a list of New Year’s resolutions (most of which you won’t keep), start work on your list of relationship makers…the list of qualities and characteristics you want in your next mate. As soon as you start working on your list of relationship makers and deal breakers, you will start to gain clarity about the person you want in your life.
This one simple process will help you focus on the important things to you in a relationship. You will be able to stop wasting time dating the wrong people and you will start looking for people that are better suited to your wants, needs and desires. If you have a problem figuring out what is important to you or where to look, send me a note and I will pass on some simple ideas for you.
Are you ready to get serious about finding your extraordinary relationship in 2016?
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About the author.
Over the past 30 years, Rick Soetebier has been a student of self and relationship improvement. He is an astute observer of people and relationship issues. Over time and through a relationship and marriage that ended after 25 years, Rick started to develop some of the fundamental principles that are found in his book, Dating Backward: A practical guide to dating and finding your soul mate. You can benefit from his observations, education, research and personal experience by letting him help you make better relationship decisions. Date consciously and settle for nothing less than extraordinary in your next relationship.