It is typical for most of us to start the new year with resolutions (most of which we never keep) and to look forward to the opportunity to start a new year with a fresh outlook. What I have come to discover, at least for me, is that January is one of the best times to re-evaluate. At this time we are through all the hustle and hassle of the holidays and year-end projects that need our focus and attention.
Sometimes you just need to take a break to delve deep into your soul to figure out what you really want. You have to step back from all the hub-bub and stress of daily life to make sure you haven’t lost yourself in all the trappings of what we are told we should and shouldn’t be, what we should and shouldn’t do and where we should or shouldn’t go.
I’ve recently been given a great opportunity to step back and reflect on who I am and who I want to be. I found that I have been doing some things for the wrong reasons. Although, they were good reasons, my choices ultimately were not bringing me the satisfaction I seek. What I discovered was a lack of integrity in my personal life. I was not being honest with myself so I couldn’t be honest with others closest to me. That was a very big pill to swallow and wasn’t very tasty.
When we are not honest with ourselves, we cannot be honest with anyone else, especially those closest to us. When we do get honest with ourselves it frees us to make the best decisions for us. These decisions could impact anything from work to relationships to lifestyle and anything else you can think of. We get to ask and evaluate if we are doing the right things for the right reasons. If the answer is no, then we may have some hard decisions to make. The key is to have the courage and integrity to make the right decisions for you.
Why is this important? These are the decisions that can impact the quality of life we live, not only today but for years to come. Hopefully, these can be the decisions that we will look back on proudly and thankfully in our twilight years.
We all have the opportunity to take a fresh look at our lives daily. Each day is an opportunity to make a positive change to move us in the direction we truly want to go. What decision will you make today that changes the quality of your life for the better?
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About the author.
Over the past 30 years, Rick Soetebier has been a student of self and relationship improvement. He is an astute observer of people and relationship issues. Over time and through a relationship and marriage that ended after 25 years, Rick started to develop some of the fundamental principles that are found in his book, Dating Backward: A practical guide to dating and finding your soul mate. You can benefit from his observations, education, research and personal experience by letting him help you make better relationship decisions. Date consciously and settle for nothing less than extraordinary in your next relationship.