#243 – The Four Cornerstones of Great Relationships – The Emotional Cornerstone

The Emotional Cornerstone creates an amazing connection. It’s the one connection that is most often misunderstood and, like the other cornerstones, it cannot stand alone to make an extraordinary relationship.

This cornerstone is subject to your physical and mental health and hormones. This connection is the energy and binding strength of a relationship that is intertwined through the other three cornerstones. You can choose to be emotionally connected or not. That’s why you may have heard that love is a choice.

The Physical Cornerstone, which we’ll talk about next week, is tied to your emotional connection. Hormones are released as you look upon your mate and they trigger a response in which your heart can beat more quickly. You may feel butterflies in your stomach or a general overall excitement just to be near them.

In the early stages of a relationship, these feelings are more attributed to infatuation. It’s the feeling you both get when you spot the other walking into a room. It’s what makes your heart skip a beat or beat faster in anticipation of the next time you get to see each other.

This emotional connection can cause your hands to sweat and your knees to shake when you look at or think about your mate.

It’s also the feeling you have after the infatuation wears off and you can’t wait to get home to share your day with your mate. It’s the excitement and pleasure you get when you hold hands, are in a long embrace or snuggle up on the couch watching a movie.

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It’s an energy that can be felt.
I used to think it couldn’t be seen. But, I think I’m wrong. I do believe this energy can be seen. Just look at those special couple that have found their soul mates. There is a look about them that is different from every other couple.

You know you can feel your soul mate’s energy in a room without even touching each other.

How does the emotional connection provide the glue for spiritual and intellectual connections?
You share feelings of excitement, joy, and happiness with each other and for each other. This emotional connection is what brings you joy for your mate and their growth and accomplishments.

You are happy when they are happy. You feel sorrow when they feel sorrow. You feel their pride in their successes and accomplishments. You know and feel their emotions as if they were your own.

You share and feel the love they have for God and others, and it is if you are one. When you experience this type of connection, you’ll recognize that it goes beyond infatuation and is extraordinary in how it brings a fullness and expanded awareness to your life.

When you find your soul mate, infatuation will be transformed.
You will find a deep, abiding, emotional bond to carry you through life’s adventure together. Many times you will share similar feeling at the same time. At other times you’re in different emotional places.

The emotional cornerstone allows you to share emotional strength and support with each other. Oftentimes one will be emotionally strong when the other is weak. At other times, you’ll switch roles of being emotionally strong and weak.

You both will share strength and weakness at different times. And, you’ll share love, joy, happiness, sadness, grief, pain, frustration, pride, and excitement, just to name a few. It’s almost instinctive for soul mates to read each other’s moods or emotions.

It may be through facial expressions, body language, or verbal cues that your mate signals you. And…sometimes you just need to ask what’s wrong when you sense something isn’t right.

I don’t want to create the impression that there won’t be any emotional roller-coaster rides. In a true soul mate relationship, there will always be obstacles that get in your way. Life happens and there’s nothing any of us can do to change that. But, with a strong, loving, emotional bond, the two of you will weather life’s upsets much more gracefully together than apart.

The foundation of an emotional connection is emotional maturity.
You need to understand who you are and what you need in a mate. If you or your mate are emotionally immature or emotionally unavailable, you will be searching for the wrong elements in your relationship.

When you are emotionally healthy and emotionally mature, you will be able to give fully of yourself and not hold anything back. This point is critical for a healthy relationship to exist. If you hold back emotionally, you will be holding back the entire relationship!

You have to be willing to be vulnerable, knowing full well that there is a possibility of being hurt.

If you need help recognizing what a healthy relationship should look like, check out my blog #220 – The 8 Key Element of an Extraordinary Relationship.

If you really want a deeper look at great dating and relationship skills, order a copy of my book Dating Backward. It’s available on my website or on Amazon.com.

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