#314 – Guys, if you want a good woman, you have to be a great man!
It really is that simple. Don’t expect to find a good woman just waiting to date you if you aren’t a great guy!
It really doesn’t take much to impress a good woman. Women tell me all the time that they want just some very basic things from her man.
If you can’t be truthful about EVERYTHING, don’t waste her time or yours. If you can’t be honest about everything don’t even start to talk to her.
Before you start dating anyone, teach yourself to be an honest man. Make a commitment to God and ask for his help. He’s there for you.
Be a gentleman!
This is huge guys! Learn to open doors for her. Learn to seat her at the table first before you sit down. Learn to walk on the curb side of the sidewalk when you’re walking together.
Learn to stand every time she gets up from the table and when she returns.
Respect her as a person. Never be condescending. Value her opinions because she’s probably smarter than you.
Never argue with her in public. If you have a disagreement, do it in private.
Have a sense of humor!
One of the fastest ways to a woman’s heart is to make her laugh. If you can make her laugh and smile you’ll be light years ahead of the guy that can’t.
Intelligence is sexy!
Be smart, not a smart ass. Be able to hold an intelligent conversation. If all you know is sports, hunting, or fishing, you need to develop your intellectual side.
Start reading books. Start listening to podcasts. Know and understand current events. These things don’t need to be the topic of every conversation, but you should be able to hold your own and not look foolish in public.
If you don’t know or understand a topic of discussion learn to ask questions.
Learn to listen!
When your lady comes to you to talk about things going on in her life, don’t go into fix-it mode. She just wants to share her day or her problems with you.
When you start to try to fix her problems, she doesn’t feel heard. Even though you may have nothing but the best of intentions, you’re not listening to her.
When in doubt, just ask. If you catch yourself wanting to fix her problem, stop and ask her if she wants your help of if she just wants you to listen.
Learn to talk to her!
Guys are great at trying to be protective and shelter their woman from problems. Let her into your world. When you have a problem, share it with her. She not going to think you’re weak.
If you don’t think she’ll understand what you’re talking about, guess again. She’s probably smarter than you think.
If she doesn’t understand, then share more details so she will.
If she’s with you, she wants to be a part of your world. There is nothing harder for a woman to do that to be with someone that won’t share their thoughts and feelings with her.
Keep your eyes on the prize!
Take your head off the swivel. Stay focused on your date. If your eyes are constantly wandering, you don’t deserve her. It tells her that you’re always looking for someone better.
Stay focused on your woman when you’re out together. Nothing is as disheartening for her as being out with someone that makes her feel unwanted, undesirable, and unappreciated.
Don’t be that guy!
If you want to attract a good woman, start being the man she wants in her life. If you start doing the things I’ve just shared above, you’ll always stand out from the rest of the guys she meets.
Don’t be a typical guy. Be the man you know you should be. It’s not hard. It just takes a little focus and some effort, and I promise you it will be well worth it in the end.
When your woman is treated like a lady, she will treat you like a king.
I hope I’ve given you some food for thought to help you make healthier relationship decisions.
Please feel free share your thoughts, your successes, and your missteps to help others get better one step at a time. Leave a comment below or drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.