#334 - Are you dating randomly or intentionally?
Let me ask you a question.
Would you take a long vacation without planning for it? Would you randomly pack a suitcase not knowing where you were going?
Would you then go to the airport and try to book a ticket to somewhere in hopes that there’d be an empty seat for you? Then, once you got to wherever you could get to, where do you stay?
You don’t have any accommodations reserved so you’re stuck with whatever might be available. You could get really lucky and end up in a 5-star resort or you could end up in a bug infested dump.
This is exactly the way dating goes today.
If this isn’t the way you’d take a vacation, then why is this the way you date?
When you put more thought into what you’re going to have for dinner than what you want in your next relationship you’re dating by accident.
You’re letting randomness guide your dating life. You’re more likely to end up in poor relationship than a great one.
When you can you tell me more about what you don’t want than what you do want in your next relationship you’re focusing on the wrong things.
When you consistently choose partners badly you’re not crystal clear about what you want in a mate.
When you stay in poor relationships too long because you’re afraid of hurting their feelings or because it’s easier to stay than to start over, you don’t value yourself enough.
When you stay because the sex is good but the rest of the relationship isn’t you’re dating for all the wrong reasons!
When you stay in a mediocre relationship because you don’t believe in extraordinary relationships or soul mates, you don’t have faith that something better actually exists for you.
If any one of these things sounds like you, it’s time to make some serious changes in your dating life.
It’s time to stop your random dating and start dating with intention.
Dating intentionally means that you start to really think about what’s important to you in a relationship. What are your Must Haves and what are your Deal Breakers?
It’s time to start looking for relationships where you can develop healthy Intellectual, Spiritual, Emotional, and Physical connections.
This means you have to know what you’re looking for before you start dating. You need to invest time in yourself to figure out what will bring you your greatest joy.
This also means that you have to be emotionally heathy and ready to date. It means you have to leave your past behind you and start looking to a better future.
You have to be proactive and creative in where you look for your soul mate.
Where do you start? You start with my book, Dating Backward: A practical guide to dating and finding your soul mate.
Dating Backward was written to help you make better choices about the people you date and the relationships you enter into.
The best relationships are built on strong foundations, having common morals and values, and common interests.
When you take most of the relationship obstacles out of your way in the beginning, you won’t need to spend a lot of time trying to fix a broken relationship or marriage later on.
I won’t lie. Finding your soul mate is challenging. But when you find your forever love, you’ll instantly recognize why none of your past relationships worked out.
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Thank you and have a great and blessed day.