#379 - Finding Love in Mid-Life
Embrace These Mindset Shifts to Attract the Right Partner
Your belief system has a lot to do with our success or failure not only in dating but also in life. Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been sharing Thought Reversals on Facebook to help illustrate many of our limiting beliefs.
Today I’m going to share ten limiting beliefs with you. Which ones ring true for you? Which ones have you overcome? Which ones are you still struggling with?
These are listed in no particular order of importance. The most important thing is to see which ones might be affecting you and how to shift your perspective to make dating more enjoyable and fruitful.
- From "Dating is too hard at my age" to "Every stage of life offers unique opportunities for connection."
Recognize that every age comes with its own advantages. With maturity comes wisdom, and with experience comes a deeper understanding of what you truly want in a partner. Embrace this stage as a chance to find someone who values you for who you are. - From "I'm too set in my ways" to "I have the wisdom to know what I want and the flexibility to grow."
Appreciate your established preferences and routines but stay open to new experiences. This balance can lead to a more fulfilling and dynamic relationship. - From "All the good ones are taken" to "There are many wonderful people out there looking for someone just like me."
Shift your focus from scarcity to abundance. Understand that there are many people in the same situation as you, seeking meaningful connections. - From "I've been hurt before" to "I have learned and grown from my past experiences."
See past relationships as valuable learning experiences that have prepared you for a healthier, more fulfilling connection in the future. - From "I don't want to go through the hassle of dating" to "Dating can be an exciting adventure to discover new possibilities."
Reframe dating as a series of enjoyable opportunities to meet new people, learn new things, and have fun rather than a stressful obligation. - From "I'm not attractive (or smart, tall, rich, funny, etc.) enough " to "I bring a lot to the table and am worthy of love."
Focus on your strengths, qualities, and what you can offer in a relationship. Confidence in yourself attracts positive attention from others. - From "I'll never find anyone compatible" to "Compatibility grows through shared experiences and open communication."
Believe that compatibility is not just found but developed. It requires patience, effort, and the willingness to understand and connect with others. - From "Online dating is overwhelming" to "Online dating is a tool that expands my reach to find a great match."
See online dating as a valuable resource that broadens your horizons and provides more opportunities to meet like-minded individuals. - From "It's too late for me to find love" to "Love can happen at any age and stage of life."
Embrace the belief that it's never too late to find love. Many people find fulfilling relationships later in life, and you can too. - From "I need to be someone else to attract a partner" to "Being authentic attracts the right kind of partner.
Emphasize the importance of being true to oneself. Authenticity fosters genuine connections and ensures that you attract someone who appreciates you for who you really are.
Number 7 is one of my favorite excuses. It predetermines your dating outcome which leads to a “what’s the point?” kind of attitude so you just give up before you even really give dating a true effort.
This week I’d really like you to think about what your limiting beliefs are keeping you from. Are they keeping you single, alone, and lonely?
Coaching aside, one of the hardest things for me to observe is people telling themselves that they’re fine. All the while they’re just living out an adequate life alone when deep down inside they long for someone special in their life.
I don’t know if it’s the world of dating that’s too intimidating, not knowing where to start or look, or not being willing to put in the effort. Maybe it’s all of these things. All I know is that I see people finding loving healthy relationships every day.
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Happy Dating!