#66 - Love does not guarantee "happily ever after".
Most of us have fallen deeply in love with someone. However, for one reason or another, that love was not strong enough to sustain the relationship. When a relationship ends, we all suffer a certain level of grief. It doesn’t make any difference why the relationship ended, how long it lasted, who ended it, how good it was or how bad it was. We all are going to grieve when we feel a loss. It is a natural part of the healing process.
There are seven stages of grief (you can look them up on your own) and we all pass through each of theses stages, not necessarily in order and sometimes we revisit certain stages more than once.
I often tell people that only you can control your emotions. No one else can control them unless you give them permission to do so. The emotion of grief is different in that only you can deal with it. You cannot give control of your grief to anyone else. It is yours and yours alone. While your grief may be triggered by someone else’s actions, they cannot control your reactions. Your grief, your loss, is something that only you can work through.
Love is a very powerful emotion and when a relationship ends we will usually carry that love with us for a long time to come. It may dwindle in time and we will move on. Cherish the experience of loving someone even if it didn’t work out as you had planned. It is part of the human experience and adds to the richness of life. Learn more about yourself from a love lost. What things could be done differently? What things can be done better next time? What characteristics do we need to look out for in our next relationship?
To learn more, check out my book, Dating Backward: A practical guide to dating and finding your soul mate at luv4alifetime.com where you can read the first chapter free of charge.